You have spoken to a problem that most Christian leaders are not. Countless times I have heard, both in my own churches and far off, pornography spoken of as an exclusively male sin, and maybe demographically that is true for the membership of many churches because of their backgrounds. But I spent ten and a half years in college due to a variety of factors outside my control and changing majors, and there was a consistent pattern, which again could be a unique demographic and may or may not be representative of other colleges but it is at least a reality in some places.
That is, when porn is mentioned in class most the male students avoid looking at people and have body language suggesting shame that they do watch it and don’t want to admit it, with only about one male openly defending it who will usually be a jock type and probably wearing a tank top and a gold necklace—but most the female students will defend porn as part of their feminist sexual liberation and take rejection of porn as oppressive “patriarchy,” while debating amongst themselves the merits of using the mainstream websites meant for men or instead using only “feminist porn” or “ethical porn” (the Feminist Sex Wars of decades past has shifted!). Moreover, I have heard the same young women who will decry penetration as patriarchy and heteronormative and totally unnecessary to a women’s sexual pleasure brag about their dildo collections…
The culture is in flux and has many subcultures, and we need to be able to reach every corner with God’s Las and Gospel, which at least requires not being presumptuous of who is doing what sin and who is not, and aided by becoming aware of different demographics.
You have spoken to a problem that most Christian leaders are not. Countless times I have heard, both in my own churches and far off, pornography spoken of as an exclusively male sin, and maybe demographically that is true for the membership of many churches because of their backgrounds. But I spent ten and a half years in college due to a variety of factors outside my control and changing majors, and there was a consistent pattern, which again could be a unique demographic and may or may not be representative of other colleges but it is at least a reality in some places.
That is, when porn is mentioned in class most the male students avoid looking at people and have body language suggesting shame that they do watch it and don’t want to admit it, with only about one male openly defending it who will usually be a jock type and probably wearing a tank top and a gold necklace—but most the female students will defend porn as part of their feminist sexual liberation and take rejection of porn as oppressive “patriarchy,” while debating amongst themselves the merits of using the mainstream websites meant for men or instead using only “feminist porn” or “ethical porn” (the Feminist Sex Wars of decades past has shifted!). Moreover, I have heard the same young women who will decry penetration as patriarchy and heteronormative and totally unnecessary to a women’s sexual pleasure brag about their dildo collections…
The culture is in flux and has many subcultures, and we need to be able to reach every corner with God’s Las and Gospel, which at least requires not being presumptuous of who is doing what sin and who is not, and aided by becoming aware of different demographics.
Totally agree, our culture loves pornography and doesn't understand it. Also, you should listen to this conversation we did on pornography: https://www.ljramsey.org/p/pornography-discussion-w-heritage